myLot Discussions on parenting discipline books| What do you think about soap in the mouth?? | | A lot of people will be against it I'm sure but my daughter says the f word and the a word. I have tried numerous ways to get her to stop but she won't so she said it in the tub the other day so my husband put the bar soap in her mouth. Not all the way just enough so she got the taste in her mouth. I have been doing it now too because nothing else is working for us. Would you ever do this with your kids or know any one else who does this?? | |
| | why kids and youth today are careless and very disorganized | | a large number of today children and youth lost all kinds of good manners, are very insensitive to others, particularly to their parents, their rooms is a mess,dirty socks are everywhere and dirty underwear seen by the whole visitors who come in the house.. their toys are all broken....
when I was a child I had a big respect for older people, teachers, authorites of all kind... did not have to be punished or threatened to obey.. that the way it was...
parents were getting toys they had to be well maintained, put in place, and no other toys if they were misused.. room had to be clean without even considering arguing... My kids who are definetely not the best... are Stars and heroes compared to what I see nowadays, and compared to their classmates
what happened to the world?.. kids don't say good morning, don't knock on doors before entering, I feel like an old man who is not satisfied and talk about the old time, I am not old (I hope)
what are the reasons.. in my opnion these are the main reasons, media, peer pressure, working mothers, broken families, spoiled kids with too many toys and continuous up to date electronic toys,it is also our psychologist who by encouraging kids... | |
| | Going from bad to worse:( | | It only 3 weeks ago i spoke to my family counsellor and told him. that with regards to Mette, everything was going okay an basically i had nothing specific to be unhappy about. I might have pissed of God or Destiny biiig time, cos ever since it has gone from bad to worse. In fact life has become a living nightmare to me.There is a background story to this. If you are interested here are the links to my previous discussions regarding this issue:http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1164067.aspxhttp://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1302249.aspxhttp://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1302249.aspx3 weeks ago, Mette's plans was to continue the college she started in Aug and she wanted to stay with me till this is finished, though she turns 18 in a month time and by Danish law turn independent and can do what she want.The current crisis, which i doubt very much we will survive with hour relationship intact, started when I told her that I would be more than happy to have her stay with me for the time she was studying, but from the day she turned 18 she would have to pay board, as my monthly income will drop with 700$ from that day of (child support etc.)In Denmark as... | |
| | Is spanking ok? | | Do you think its ok to spank your child? I know its seems a bit harsh but what do you do with children who are just plain hard headed. They know they can get over and they are just disrespectful! I dont know how many times i tell the kids, no eating in the rooms. Only to find half eaten plates smuggled and hidden in rooms. This has caused a rodent problem as well as insects. Mainly ants but still. I tell them no food or drink in the rooms and when i go on a rampage, i find all sorts of yummy treats that had to of been smuggled into the rooms. There are 3 of them and well lets face it,i only have 2 eyes and 2 hands. Someone always gets by. Any hoo most of the time i get real fusterated and have to threaten a spanking if i see any more food smuggled into the rooms. Meanwhile its like pulling teeth for them to keep there room cleaned. I dont want to sound like its a laxed house or a boot camp. I try to let them have free time as well as showing them good habits but i seem to be so tired and the effort is too much when trying to get through to them. I guess i am overly tired and very fusterated! What are your views? Do you spank your children? What if they are really unruley and very... | |
| | When is the right time to move out of the nest (your parents home) | | Hi i have a question that i think pertains to everyone. When do you think is the right time to leave your parents or families home to start off on your own? i have a 20 year old nephew that was forced out by his mother but she still pays for his living accommodation's and expenses. Personally i think the longer an adult (anyone over 20) stays at home the more damage they are doing to them selves in the future if they intend to leave one day, but there are always extenuating circumstances so give me your opinion? | |
| | Why I choose not to spank... | | There have been several discussions lately on the pros and cons of spanking. I do not spank my children. It is the opposing arguments that have caused me to pause and really think about WHY. My mom was a spanker. I grew up fine or so it would appear. I am responsible, honest, kind to others. I am not prone to violence in any way and I don't spank my own kids. I do not nor did I ever feel that I was "abused" by her. I got spanked when I did something wrong and that was it...I deserved it. I also must note that along with the spanking came the angry words and the frequent critisisms. My dad on the other hand, did not spank me ...not once ..not ever! He was very creative in his discipline and very patient and understanding. He was a teacher and did much work with special needs students as well as troubled teens. Sometimes these kids would come by the house just to talk and seek guidance and advice from my dad. I saw many of them turn their lives around and later thank him for his encouragement and faith in them at times when they had little faith in themselves. It is hard to describe but he had a way about him...you just wanted to live up to what he believed was your... | |
| | my boys are not happy with me | | After having confiscated their schoolwork last week, and not letting them have it back for 2 days, although listening ot them accuse each other taking it, was humorous, I gave it back to them ONE DAY, and they left it out again, ok, hiding it was not an option, letting them accuse each other was not an option, I took both their assignments and dumped them all in a bucket, and mixed them all up, now they have to go through it all and sort it out according to subject, and what not, which is more tedious for my 14 year old because more of his work is on paper and not in text books. So they aren't happy with me, as well as doing this they will have to redo at least one assignment from each subject that is already complete...Hopefully finally they will learn their lesson about putting their schoolwork away.Mooch | |
| | My kids will not clean their room, | | so just a bit ago I got done cleaning it for them. I have been trying to get them to clean it for 4 days now. Usually they will at least straighten it up a bit. All of their toys are going to go to my husband's workplace, because he can store them their. They also keep telling me that they've hung up their clothes, or put them in their dresser. I found a heaping pile of clothes on their closet floor. I'm not sure they are dirty or clean or a mix of both, so they all have to be washed again.I am getting tired of washing and washing their clothes, just to have to wash them again because instead of putting them away, they've thrown them on a heap on the floor. I told them that since they don't have toys, they will spend tomorrow hand-washing their clothes in the bathtub for something to do.Please keep in mind, that just the 2 boys were part of this. They are almost 9 and 5. The baby was not a part of it, she has her own room. Was I too harsh? Am I expecting too much of them? I gave them fair warning this afternoon, when I told them they needed to clean their room. I told them that if they didn't get it picked up, they would lose their toys until they could earn them back.... | |
| | do you have rules at home? yes or not... | | yes we have...Now that I have growing up kids we make sure that there are things to be considered like...Wake up time is 6:00am
Be home before 4:30 pm
No watching TV if assignments are not done...
WAshing of dishes are scheduled too.
Sleeping time is 10:00pm how about you?
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